I Do… Do I?
The generation that grew up with no doubt that Gavin and Gwen were the real deal are now asking themselves a very big question – should I get married, and if so when is the right time?
We know the feeling – you’ve been with your significant other for five, six years and everyone keeps asking “when are you going to settle down and get married?” Well, Millennials are not as quick to rush into marriage as generations before us and it comes with good reason. That’s not to say that they aren’t thinking about it; based on our recent POME Study, about 55% of Millennials do see marriage as something they value in their lifestyle, just a matter of timing.
Many of us grew up amongst the sad and depressing statistic that divorce rates were on the rise and we all knew that one aunt and uncle who were married for 30 years but secretly started sleeping in separate bedrooms’ years ago. Is it really a shock that most of us are now waiting to tie the knot?
The good news is, rather than contributing to the divorce rate, more and more people are waiting until they are in their late twenties and early thirties before getting married. Here’s a few reasons why waiting might be the best idea:
- By the time your out of your early twenties your likely to have gotten those bad decisions out of your system and are more clearheaded in picking a partner. Your dating profile no longer includes: “must have motorcycle”
- You’ve discovered things about yourself that you likely would not have if you had gotten married at 22. How were you supposed to discover your passion for art and culinary cuisine without that year abroad in France?
- Your mature enough to know when a fight is worth a fight. Let’s not argue over whether the Red Hot Chili Peppers are better than Weezer – we’re all entitled to our opinions
- You’ve had time to live away from your parents. Whether alone or with a roommate or two – you are not learning how to take care of yourself alongside your husband or wife.
- You know yourself. By the time you are nearing the end of your twenties usually you have a pretty good instinct on what you want and what you don’t want- this goes for in life and in a partner.
- You are financially stable. Unless you’re a trust fund baby – you likely are spending your early twenties with half your pay cheque going to the bar and the other half going to hefty loans or credit card debt. Let’s get out of that financial hole before we bring others down with us!
Whether you are contemplating proposing, rushing out to buy the white dress, or even content with your single freedom, at the end of the day there is no right answer or age to guarantee your happily ever after – only peace of mind that comes with putting yourself first.